吃SUSHI的领悟

今天我们去吃SUSHI BUFFET
一排排的SUSHI摆在面前, 姿态各异
我注意到NORNOR的选择很受颜色影响
他连连叫到: “妈妈, 那个红色包着绿色的! 那个黑色包着黄色的!.....”
仔细看来, 那不过是红米包着绿黄 瓜, 紫菜包着腌罗卜…..
在我这个吃蟹黄吃出高血脂的人看来, 都没有什么真货色 :)
但我听任他堆了五颜六色花花绿绿的一盘
他埋头吃了一半多, 突然抬起头说:
“妈妈, 我发现看上去好看的不一定好吃.
就象长的好看的小朋友不一定NICE.
长的不好看的小朋友却可能对我很好.”
PAT, PAT, 儿子, 希望你将来找女朋友, 娶老婆时还记得你吃的SUSHI.
你奶奶就曾经把这个道理语重心长地告诉你爹 :D

Bring me to the ball park

Today we went to a red sox game.
Althought the Red Sox has already lost the season and I am totally illiterate of baseball, nornor enjoyed being there more than he had ever been.
Given that he has a shy disposition, I have intentionally brought him to surroundings of large crowd. He is feeling comfortable with it and even makes himself entertaining to people. Still, it takes time for him to warm up and he is not readily returning a Hi yet. But towards the end of the game, when folks were leaving, he was able to joke around a bit.
Now I am looking forward to bring him to basketball games. Even more noisy :)

孤独泪

喊NORNOR吃晚饭, 却发现他一个人在自己的房间里, 神色黯然.
我问他怎么啦, 他默不作声.
我感觉他肯定有什么心思, 就坐下来, 在他旁边, 说:"有什么话要给妈妈讲吗?"
谁料, 他突然嚎啕大哭起来:"今天, 在PLAYGROUND, 没有一人跟我玩!"
看得出来,他很受伤害的样子, 哭得很悲怆.
我让他先把情绪发泄了一会儿, 又慢慢问了个明白.
原来, 自从9月份以来, 比他大的小朋友们都去上KINDGARDEN了.
他所有的好朋友都走了.
剩下的男孩只有2岁多的和刚3岁的.
唯一的一个4岁多的是一个女孩子. 但那女孩子只和别的女孩子玩.
今天最让NORNOR伤心的是那个女孩子对别的女孩子说不要和他玩.
也许我们大人觉得是很小的事, 但对孩子的打击可能很大.
而NORNOR又是那种特别重感情的类型.
看着他不停地抽泣, 我很心痛, 搂着他小小的肩膀, 我自己的眼泪也滚落下来.
说实在的, 我不知道该对他说什么.
我想说, 人生自古有离别, 朋友一生一起走是不可能的.
但对他的年龄来讲, 似乎太抽象, 太缥缈.
我想说, 没有人可以永远POPULAR.
但对他来说, 只是伤口撒盐, 也好象没有什么帮助.
我只是告诉他:"我们一起想办法. 你是一个好孩子, 总会有小朋友跟你玩的."
但孩子的心明显已经很受伤害.
我知道将来还会有很多很多次, 他将受到伤害, 生活中的挫折.
宝贝, 今天你把伤害向我哭诉, 明天的路, 只能是你自己去经历.
伤了, 就痛痛快快哭一场. 虽说男儿有泪不轻谈.
挫折了, 努力去应对.
妈妈尽量在你身边.

Courageous and Displined

Today nornor came back in excitment and told me that he punched back when a boy beat him at school. I feel happy, not because I encourage him to hit others, but because in his whole life, this is the first time he ever had the courage to defend himself. He has always been the one who was bitten, beat, kicked, even when he is the oldest boy in class. That is what prompted me to send him to Karake program. The two virtues I hoped in him are courage and displine. He hardly gets it from the so called genes. After several classes, I am glad to see increased confidence in him. The inccident of first time defendence just confirms it. To keep the boudary, I reinterated the Chinese value "Don't offend others if they don't offend you, but do defend when you are offended."

Vanity

Today after picking up nornor, I stopped at the dry cleaner for my laundry.
The monent we walked in, the dry cleaner's jaw dropped.
He has seen me several times, but this is the first time I brought nornor with me.
He looked up and down at nornor again and again, and finally asked: "Is this your kid?"
I said: "yes."
He then asked: "Are you married?"
I said: "For 10 years now."
He said that "I am really surprised because you look exactly like a college girl."
Muhahaha, my vanity is satisfied for the day.

英雄情节

又到了万圣节买COSTUME的时候了,
越来越发现男孩女孩是不是根深蒂固的性别差异
男孩子个个扮英雄
女孩子个个扮公主
NORNOR对他穿了3年的POOH BEAR已经忍无可忍了,
坚决要求作SUPERMAN
我和LG努力劝他发扬民族文化做孙悟空
NORNOR宣称不要做孙悟空, 要做SUPERMAN
因为:"孙悟空只会72变, SUPERMAN可以无穷大变."
被我们哈哈大笑:"无穷大便! 大便!"
最后的妥协是:
NORNOR将身穿SUPERMAN的衣服,
面戴奥特曼的面具,
手持孙悟空的如意金箍棒
聚古今中外之英雄力量
奋力去要糖:)

自己的房间

全家齐动手, 花了整整一个周末, NORNOR终于有了"自己的房间".
首先, 他宣布"这是我自己的房间, 我规定: 每次只可以进来一个人."
我于是抢先冲了进去, 但被他强行拉出.
他接着宣布:"进门之前你要先敲门, 我可能说"请进," 你就可以进来; 但我也可能说:"不可以进来."
我于是使劲敲门.
他叹了口气, 说:"我决定还是在门上贴一张纸. 写上"请勿打扰."
我看了看LG:"是你教给他的?"
LG说:"没有呀."
看来他在中国颇有学习,
但可惜学业不精, 他自己不会写字, 哈哈.
只听见他在房间里大声疾呼:"欢迎参加我的 Sleep Oer Party. I have a big, great, no huge cookie! 我们可以打球, 有篮球, 排球, 足球, 棒球, 网球, 各种各样的球......
SIGN, 这个小小的房间距离开PARTY的梦想还太远, 太远.
但穷爸穷妈也有浪漫情怀, 给NORNOR买了塑料的星星月亮挂墙上......

Leader's Big Supporter

Over breakfast, nornor said: "Mama, you forgot to ask me yesterday how I was a leader."
I said: "Ok, how were you a leader then?"
Nornor: "You need to specify what time of the day, because at different time I was a different leader."
I: "How about starting in the morning. How were you a leader in the morning?"
Nornor: "I made Yuvoor the leader's supporter."
I: "Please describe how you made Yuvoor the leader's supporter."
Nornor: "I told Yuvoor that "When I am here, you listen to my words. When I got to the bathroom, they (all the other kids) listen to your words."

Well, I am not sure that is what I had thought what it means to be the leader's supporter.

书

今天听了大家的意见,决定开始教NORNOR认字, 希望他很快可以自己读书.
其实我小时候也是很爱读书的. 家里没钱, 我从来没穿过新衣服,但也并不羡慕别人的新衣服.
但爸爸妈妈在花钱给我们买书上从来没犹豫过. 我感谢爸妈,也希望NORNOR如此.

尽量

傍晚我做饭的时候NORNOR在院子里和他爸爸一起打球.
后来他高高兴兴地进来说:"妈妈, 我赢了. 我比爸爸多好多分."
我一下子想起来我姐的评价说NORNOR输了耍赖, 决定问问他:
"NORNOR, 这个世界上比你厉害的人多了. 你要输了怎么办?"
NORNOR说: "我会尽量去赢的. 如果我尽了最大的努力, 输了就输了."
理论上没错, 就是不知道做不做得到.

听话

NORNOR高高兴兴地从空手道的课上回来了, 告诉我老师表扬他了.
我问老师是怎么表扬他的. 他说老师说他是班上最听话的.
我叹气, NORNOR最大的特点就是听话, 但听话真不是什么优点呀.
上次上课老师点名, 说"Please say here when I call your name."
全班30多个孩子, 从4岁的到14岁的, 有说"YES"的,有不回答的, 有说"ME"的...
只有NORNOR一个老老实实地说"HERE".
SIGN.

坑

傍晚回家的路上, NORNOR突然想起早晨经过时有一段在修路, 就要和我打赌: "妈妈, 你说早上那个大坑修好了吗?"
我说: "请定义什么叫 '修好了'."
NORNOR说:"就是路上平平的, 能过车了."
我想了想, 就凭美国工人阶级的力量, 肯定一天填不平. 所以回答说: "我觉得没修好."
NORNOR说: "我觉得他们会在上面铺一个板, 让车过. "
我一想, 有可能呀, "但那不叫修好呀?!"
NORNOR说:"为什么不叫?"
我说:"坑还有呀."
NORNOR说:"我没说修好就是坑没有了的意思呀. 我是说路上平平的, 能过车了"
我哑口无言.

后来经过时, 坑上果然铺了一个铁板让车过. 我只好认输: "你打赌赢了. 你第一名. 恭喜你!"
NORNOR头一伸, 耳朵一竖, 说:"什么?"
我只好又说了一遍:"你赢了."
NORNOR头又一伸, 耳朵竖得更直了, "大声点儿? 我没听清楚."
我又说了一遍:"你赢了.恭喜你!"
只见他大嘴裂开, 得意地笑了:"哈哈, 很清楚了, 谢谢!"
原来, 这确实是一个坑呀!

世界杯

今天是NORNOR的球队第一次训练.

教练上来先介绍基础知识:"小朋友们, 你们知道吗?足球世界是第一大球,每四年各个国家的球队都会聚集在一个地方进行比赛.你们知道他们的比赛叫什么吗?"

小朋友们都没有回答.

教练接着讲:"叫世界杯. 今年就举行了世界杯, 是在德国举行的.你们知道谁赢了吗?"

小朋友还是一片寂静.

突然有一个响亮的声音回答: "Me! I won the world cup!"

我不用顺着声音看去就知道, 那个声音是我们NORNOR回答的. 我羞得都没敢看他, 恨不得地上有个缝我自己立刻钻进去:(

教练也一脸尴尬地说:"好吧.我们先起来跑步热热身吧."

无知者无畏呀!

工作

睡觉前我和nornor躺在床上聊天。
nornor突然问：“妈妈，你觉得你现在的工作boring吗？”
我心里一惊， 故作镇静地反问到：“你为什么会想起问这个问题呢？”
nornor说：“我觉得你应该换个工作了。”
我说：“换什么工作呢？”
nornor说：“你会喜欢在library工作吗？”
我说：“在library工作有什么好处呢？”
nornor说：“那样我就会有很多很多的书看了呀。这样你是不是会觉得有意思？”
我说：“有意思是有意思，但在library工作挣的钱太少。”
nornor说：“你可以要求他们给你涨工资呀。”
我只好给他解释了一番市场经济和劳资关系。把他绕晕了。
然后我问他：“你想做什么工作呢？”
他说：“我想作lawyer."
我说: "那你觉得lawyer的工作boring吗？”
他说：“我还没试过我怎么知道？”

田忌赛马

今天在路上给NORNOR讲了田忌赛马的故事.
当我问到, 田忌的三匹马都比别人的跑得慢, 他怎么才能赢呢?
我很惊讶地听到NORNOR说:"好马和中马比."
也许他只是碰巧,也许他是无意.但能这么说, 我已经很敬佩了.

另外, 还讲了草船借箭的故事, 很高兴NORNOR一下子就听明白了.

但后遗症是,他在接下来的几天里让我反复讲了N遍.

Concentration

Today, nornor finished a 100 piece puzzle all by himself. It took him a total of 37 minutes. I know many children at his age are doing this at ease. Nothing extraordinary. Still, I feel very proud of him, just because of the level of focus and concentration he demonstrated. I found it harder and harder for me to concentrate, probably with aging. He is my inspiration to be more focused and concentrated.

真是高!

LG在打游戏, NORNOR看了一会儿, 注意到屏幕上变化的数字, 问那是什么. LG说"那是我得的分." NORNOR念到:"90, 91, 92.... 哇, 你真是高!"

我和LG都笑了:他哪儿学的这个词?

Oh, Baby!

I was surfing the web and run into a series of birth pictures. Nornor quietly came behind me and asked me to explain to him what each picture was about. I hesitated for a second, but decided to tell him the story of how a baby comes into this world in the most simple way. He listened attentively, and asked several questions like "How much did I weight when I was born?" "Were you happy when you first saw me?"
Then, he asked the question: "Mom, how come you know so many things about babies?"

That is because you were once a baby too, my baby!

For Friends to Remain Friends

Today I talked with Nornor about my trip to China scheduled for October. Then we talked about the time he spent with children at Nanyang Pre-school in Shanghai from March to July. It occures to me that I should revisit the class when I go back. I don't know how much nornor gets to appreciate the friendship yet. At least in the flatter world, he is lucky that it is getting easier to stay connected.

Timing

Mom says I was an accident. There is never a perfect timing to have me, nor my blogger, nor anything in the world. Maybe that is why she named me nornor. Well, so what? Today is the day she created my blogger.